Losses can be of different types: The loss of a cell phone, business financial losses, loss of health either us or someone we hold dear, an emotional loss and the breakdown of a relationship love, divorce and, finally, a number of things like that affect our sensitivity to a greater or lesser degree.
But sooner or later we face the loss of a loved one, someone you really love and this loss is really going to shake our foundations, will play in the depths of our being and affect notably our feelings.
Years ago, as Director of one of our military training schools, faced the loss of a priest, our chaplain, Father Manuel. Was killed in a stupid car accident and suffered with their families the anguish of his last days in an intensive care ward. I cried, and I do it very easily, the game's friend, another member of my family that some know as the Naval Family. It affected me so much listening to his brother, another priest, the way it had to confront the way to Spain to tell about old people, their parents, the death of his brother Manuel. Del Padre Manuel I have the memory of the long hours spent discussing and shaping the first program of ethics and morals that given in our Institute and was very successful. Of that loss, after a certain time, I recovered.
Recently my oldest daughter, Maria Gabriela, told me as their families wept inconsolably at the loss of one of his many dogs, Danny, who was killed by cancer. Until the death of an animal you create states of anxiety, sadness. Little by little they are recovering from this loss and veterinarians and friends gave them a new dog, female in this case, which is a beautiful German Shepherd.
Between 98 and 99, the destination I filled obstacle course, which I summarize: Death of my mother, my daughter's wedding a few months after the birth of Diego, one of my grandchildren, death of a dear friend, death of my mother and my father one day apart. Of these, the one that most touched me was the loss of my mother, because in our calculations was not on the list, but to die just need to be alive.
When my mother died I went into a state of depression for more than six months. No crying apparent reason in any public or private. Fortunately a couple of friends are in charge of me during this phase and eventually began to improve my state of depression. This is the most painful part of recovery but does not last forever.
Go to marry my daughter and think that my mother did not see in this important moment of his life, not having met his first grandson, then the events of my friend, my mother and my father ended to close the circuit of involvement of those two years. It's been nine years of this and if it is true that I remember with nostalgia, something that is very normal especially on special days like birthdays, anniversaries and other special occasions, think I have recovered from that loss.
Recently a person I passed a family friend and through this post, which eventually can be read at some point, I give my contribution, my support, my shoulder to cry My arms and my love to pamper you and make you move this bitter moment with peace and serenity, in the same way I was helped by some friends when I went through the same trance. I think the best I can do right now is that she sits near me is that I am at your side, and I just want to hear it, embrace it and let it express everything he feels.
Your loved one died and we know he will not return, you must accept this harsh reality, not just in your head but in your heart. You will feel much pain and all the emotions that accompany it: sadness, anger, fear, helplessness, despair, guilt ... . Do not hide, exteriorízalo and share with family and trusted friends, you know you can count on me. Retreat to your beliefs, even there you can find peace and quiet. Although feel that the world has stopped for you, it is also true that life goes on with its many and perhaps new requirements. Life awaits full of new possibilities.
Of the many things we talked on the phone, and you're far away, at least physically, I leave the following paragraph:
"In any other situation as in mourning, the pain is total: it's a pain biological (body aches), psychological (hurts the personality), social (hurts the company and its way of being), family (it hurts the pain of others) and spiritual (soul hurts). On the loss of a loved one hurts the past, present and especially future. All life as a whole, it hurts "......... J. Montoya
Ask what you need and trust your own resources to cope. You want on this side of the screen .....
Gabriel (a) The Capi
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